Fri Oct 26, 2007 7:12PM EDT
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Here's something you may want to try this weekend if the kids are giving you a hard time about helping clean up around the house. Over at Parent Hacks, a reader recommends an online game called Chore Wars to inspire kids to work hard and fast by winning points.
By earning points for jobs well done, family members also amass a record of who is doing what around the house. So one bonus is if older siblings are giving a younger one a hard time for not doing enough and it turns out the youngest is actually doing the lion's share, then there is justice in the family. Finally.
You can also use it as a way to reward good work done, promising something extra for the family member who does the most work by the end of the week. I could also see this being a nonthreatening, fun way for roommates to distribute responsibilities without letting resentments build. Hey, it's worth a try.
I am very curious to see if this would work. My husband grew up in a family of si,x and there were charts taped to the inside of kitchen cabinets detailing who needed to do what on which day. They were followed closely by all involved. With our smaller family, things are a little more lax, and he thinks his kids have it way too easy.
I'm sure my son would love an excuse to put another game in motion, so we'll try it out and I'll let you know how it goes. If anyone already has, let us know what you think.
LINK: Household chores meet online gaming: chore wars [Parent Hacks]
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Interesting article. I can well remember how our now adult children often balked at chore assignments as kids. My wife grew up in a large family, and each one was expected to share the load. She was babysitting and cleaning house at age 9. Their mother died of cancer, and the older girls took over mothering the younger ones. Their dad tried to manage all this and work too. With this work ethic strongly imbedded in her, my wife would enforce chores on our sometimes lazy kids. This included cleaning their rooms, helping wash dishes,and yard work. This would often be met with some backlash, such as: " Do I have to? Jimmy is comin over to trade baseball cards." Or, from our girl: " I'm tired.I DON'T feel like trimming grass." Their mom's response: " I said do it. No excuses. You can play with your friends after your work is done." My wife died suddenly two years ago, and our kids realize now that helpiing out around the house didn't hurt them one bit. I n fact; my daughter now enforces chores on her son, and my son does on his girl. It's not cruel, it wont hurt them. It will give them satisfaction and pride of a job well done.
I just don't think I should be bribing my kid to do his chores! I don't pay him to do chores (he gets an allowance to learn how to manage money not so he can choose whether or not to be lazy!!!) and I am not going to play a game with him just so he can feel good for having to do some work! I put a chart up every week and he follows it every day and if not done no computer, no tv. Period! It seems to work! :-)
Bostonbucki, the only drawback to that is the association with simple household maintenance and threats. The point of the game is that the chores are easier with the right mindset. It doesn't give a reward, the parents have that option, the game only gives credit to those doing the most work. I promise a time will come when no tv or computer for a few days is acceptable to a kid if it means getting out of the cycle for a while. Threats have a way of always getting bigger to remain effective, whereas positive reinforcement is easier to maintain at genial levels.
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1 Posted by mistydawnangel on Sun Oct 28, 2007 6:47PM EDT Report Abuse
Now let me understand this are you going to create this game. Or are you hoping to be discovered? It sure sounds fun to me so I am going to go and look it up to see if it exists yet. Have fun. And just to let you know we are always looking for more fun........