Reader Mail: Is My Husband Spying on Me?

Mon Jan 28, 2008 10:34PM EST

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Anonymous writes: I am soon to be a single mother. My soon to be ex-husband and I owned a computer store. I only have a working knowledge of computers; he was very good at it. When he left the house, he still was able to enter the PC, and I think he installed a keylogger program on the family computer. I can't do anything on my computer at home for this reason, and was wondering if you would know how I can check this, or delete it from my computer.

Keyloggers are a common form of software and hardware that are used to keep track of everything a user does on a PC: Essentially, every button you press is recorded to a file, which the spy can then access at a later time. All your passwords, and everything else you type, is accessible by the perpetrator. Some keylogger programs can even record occasional pictures or video of the screen. Other variants can take a snapshot of you with your webcam. And yes, they can relay those logs over the internet (though this makes them easier to find).

As you can likely tell, keyloggers represent one of the most serious forms of spyware on a PC, but they are hardly unbeatable. First, most spyware detection and antivirus software should be able to uncover their presence and remove them. If you suspect a keylogger is on your PC, update your antivirus software of choice and give it a full run. Also try a sampling of other spyware killers: My current favorites are Ad-Aware and Spyware Doctor. Both are free (the latter if you get it as part of the Google Pack).

Also, and this is critical, check out your computer for any hardware you didn't connect yourself. Many hardware keyloggers look like thumbdrives and connect to either your USB or keyboard port, often between your computer and your keyboard cable. The device does all the recording and the spy simply collects the device at a later time to access your keystrokes. Spyware detection software may not uncover these devices. See the photo above for an example. They can be very small and hard to detect, so check thoroughly.

If you detect nothing in your spyware hunt but still suspect you have a keylogger (or if you find the keylogger software but are unable to remove it), your best bet is to reformat your hard drive and reinstall Windows from scratch. It's a pain, I know, but you're better safe than sorry in a situation like this. Anti-spyware tools are not perfect and can miss infections. I'd rather advise you to spend a weekend reinstalling software on your computer than potentially give up all your secrets to someone who might use them against you.

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  • 6 Posted by auntkates on Thu Sep 3, 2009 2:59PM EDT Report Abuse

    To o2cmefly: Of course, Spy Sweeper caught things Ad-aware missed! They are two separate programs! Spy-Sweeper is anti-spyware, while Ad-aware is *anti-adware*. While the two types are broadly classified as "spyware," they are two distinct things.

  • 7 Posted by j_lugo_cvg on Thu Sep 3, 2009 4:45PM EDT Report Abuse

    Wipe the hard drive, check for physical devices, and run Knoppix STD, which runs right off the cd. It is a security version of a Live-CD Linux distribution.Use a jump drive to save your settings to that. Simple.

  • 8 Posted by ipinspector on Thu Sep 3, 2009 4:24PM EDT Report Abuse

    rogueist #3, where was the windows keylogging file kept? I would like to delete it-and free up memory.

  • 9 Posted by fcunhajr on Thu Sep 3, 2009 3:59PM EDT Report Abuse

    Too bad keyloogers don't have anything else better to do. I have been accused of doing this because of my knowledge of computers. I could care less! If you can't trust someone, then get out of the relationship. Sounds like there is a new kind of stalker out there - Sick puppies indeed.

  • 10 Posted by ambornb on Thu Sep 3, 2009 2:52PM EDT Report Abuse

    man that was a good article thanks for the update and rogueist that seems very true because a lot of computers I had where always losing memory space!!!!!!!

  • 11 Posted by mrmazz68 on Thu Sep 3, 2009 7:28PM EDT Report Abuse

    I agree with comment #3. Get a Linux operating system that fits your needs (right off the Internet), and go with it. You will be much more secure, and you'll actually have a more dependable system

  • 12 Posted by heartangel189 on Thu Sep 3, 2009 4:17PM EDT Report Abuse

    my aunt cant cook.....she burnt my cookies! i must have revenge!

  • 13 Posted by stephanie01a on Thu Sep 3, 2009 9:41PM EDT Report Abuse

    I recently removed a logger from my pc. Then I bought a new pc and some extra software that was supposed to help. it didn't. on the back of the software box it said - "requires WindowsXP or better". I immediately installed Linux ...

  • 14 Posted by cyrusthevirus81@sbcglobal.net on Thu Sep 3, 2009 3:33PM EDT Report Abuse

    Well formating the hardrive and re-installing windows may not be enough (make sure to back everything up first)also if she has a wireless router she needs to change all the encription codes so he cant park accross the street and access her computer that way. I seriously doubt it would be a hardware logger since they cant send info remotely without software and it dosnt sound like he'll be in the house around the computer much to retrieve it.

  • 15 Posted by hateyou1st on Thu Sep 3, 2009 4:17PM EDT Report Abuse

    You want to SEE and DELETE some of the many things on your computer ? Try this 1 go to start , then RUN and type temp into run. delete all the items . 2 go back to run and type %temp% . delete all the items .3 you guessed it back to run and type prefetch . delete all items .. Now go to your recycle bin and look at everything thats on your computer before you delete them .This will also make your computer run faster .

  • 17 Posted by john_chinchen on Thu Sep 3, 2009 4:39PM EDT Report Abuse

    I have to say, if her soon to be ex is as devious as she thinks he is, I doubt that her account has administrative privileges. In this case, she likely can't install programs such as spyware sweepers. Best bet to conduct all sensitive online searches or use in a library or at a friends house.

  • 18 Posted by aecowdeniii on Thu Sep 3, 2009 2:46PM EDT Report Abuse

    or she can stop trying to chat with the guy she is cheating on her husband with online even.

  • 19 Posted by turner.jenn@sbcglobal.net on Thu Sep 3, 2009 10:23PM EDT Report Abuse

    If it's an ex-husband I understand. If you are married the two of you should be able to look at each others stuff if you want. If you trust each other you won't really care if your husband looks! I say this because I just heard about a web site for people that are married who want to cheat. As a married person it just makes me sick! I'm sorry if I got off topic.

  • 20 Posted by beccy23@btinternet.com on Thu Sep 3, 2009 3:04PM EDT Report Abuse

    He obviously thought you were up to something (maybe with someone) to install it in the first place! You need to get a new computer and start again, it's the only way to make sure.

  • 21 Posted by jojo_girl2002 on Thu Sep 3, 2009 4:40PM EDT Report Abuse

    If you don’t have the money to purchase another computer format the one you have or restore it to factory specifications. Either way back up your important data first and make sure you have all the installation disks. You should have windows and driver disks that came with the computer, if it was purchased; when you are done make sure to password protect it the computer.

  • 22 Posted by shirleyforrester on Thu Sep 3, 2009 9:20PM EDT Report Abuse

    I use Spybot Search which is free and find it to be very useful. The other day my background screen colour changed on my laptop (which I definitely did not change) and nobody else has access to my laptop). I knew it was a virus as everything was running extra slow. I used Spybot and the problem was resolved. A friend recommended it and it really does work. SF Expat in Germany

  • 23 Posted by d1137das on Thu Sep 3, 2009 3:33PM EDT Report Abuse

    People can be crazy when it comes to spying on an ex. I had one ex girlfriend have my calls and txt messages sent to her phone. I had to change my number to stop it.

  • 24 Posted by aqb_jo on Thu Sep 3, 2009 2:57PM EDT Report Abuse

    Yep,I agree,reboot the whole thing and start from scratch, install the necessary spyware.

  • 25 Posted by tadlodz on Thu Sep 3, 2009 9:54PM EDT Report Abuse

    I completely agree with #24. When my friend installed spyware program he discovered that his lovely wife had an affair and that she used "My Space" to advertise her prominent body parts and to correspond with a lot of guys. Never trust anyone - except your own Mother.

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