Is it OK to Twitter a funeral?

Sat Sep 13, 2008 5:44PM EDT

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Is it OK to send short updates via Twitter from private, solemn events?

That's the question being asked over the case of reporter Berny Morson, who recently went to the funeral of Marten Kudlis, who was killed when a pickup truck slammed into a Denver area ice cream shop where he was waiting for a snack. Here, Morson didn't take notes for reporting later: He sent real-time updates of the event to the world via Twitter, tapping them out on his cell phone.

The public response has been overwhelmingly negative, calling the incident "repulsive" and going to "staggering low depths." Others have come to Morson's defense, saying he did nothing wrong

You can see the entire Twitter stream here. As you can see, there's nothing inherently offensive or distasteful about the updates. They are simple and unembellished accounts of what happened that morning, almost minute by minute.

But in fact, that might be the problem: The cold nature of the "tweets" are what personally bother me the most. The reporter adds nothing to the event at all, just a hollow series of chilly facts that play out like the news crawl on CNN. One gets the sense that Morson is a robot, with no emotion in his body. That final update of "family members shovel earth into grave" is perhaps the most unsettling thing I've read in a long time: Over Twitter, Morson's updates have all the sympathy of the stock listing page or the baseball box scores. They simply add nothing to the coverage of the event, turning the tragedy of a slain toddler into a textbook entry.

Another issue is one of simple respect: Just as I would hope not to have to explain to readers that checking your voice mail is really not cool in a funeral setting, neither is it appropriate to be texting away on your cell phone the entire time. I would imagine that even Morson would find it in poor taste to Twitter, say, the plot of a film for an hour in a crowded movie theater. Shouldn't an even stricter standard of decency apply to a funeral?

But I'm letting too much of my own opinion creep into this post. I actually wanted to get some reader opinions on the subject. Is Twittering a funeral going "too far?" Or is this a case where etiquette is simply behind the tech curve? Vote here!

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  • 1 Posted by michael_swaney on Thu Sep 3, 2009 7:18PM EDT Report Abuse

    I wasn't real impressed but find nothing morbid about a play by play of a funeral.

  • 2 Posted by lanky86er on Thu Sep 3, 2009 4:56PM EDT Report Abuse

    Disrespectful, valueless, and absolutely 'no class'.

  • 3 Posted by somewhatawesome on Thu Sep 3, 2009 9:32PM EDT Report Abuse

    Now after learning that he was killed, I WANT SOMEONE TO TWITTER THE COURT PROCESS ON THE PERSON DRIVING THAT TRUCK!!! I want to hear this person get what he deserves... RIP Marten Kudlis.

  • 4 Posted by coolkyle4@snet.net on Thu Sep 3, 2009 3:29PM EDT Report Abuse

    I dont think its as bad as people say, but i do think its wrong, to txt and twitter away funeral events, i mean, the funeral events r unneeded firstly, and secondly, he has no soul, if he feels nothing wrong texting away during a funeral, and making it sound monotone, and boring

  • 5 Posted by couldo23 on Thu Sep 3, 2009 3:30PM EDT Report Abuse

    I agree with somewhatawesome.... TWITTER THE COURT CASE!!!!!!! Otherwise I see nothing wrong with twittering a funeral... why does the word funeral have the word fun in it?

  • 6 Posted by brice_78 on Thu Sep 3, 2009 3:13PM EDT Report Abuse

    a little more emotion is the twitter posts would have been nice.

  • 8 Posted by ohstfaninca on Thu Sep 3, 2009 7:43PM EDT Report Abuse

    It's a funeral, not the first one and definetly not the last one. Why is it news worthy at all. If the family wanted it covered and had no problems with the reporter who cares what the rest of us think about it.

  • 9 Posted by ecarpent@sbcglobal.net on Thu Sep 3, 2009 3:51PM EDT Report Abuse

    Respect for yourself and others, and value of human life. Ideally, people would respect others. Disresepecting others is nothing new to humans. Basically offenses and crimes fall under disrespect and not valuing human life. The reporter held no respect for this young boy killed by another. He attended the boy's funeral and behaved like he was at a family picnic and bored. The benefit of twittering this story as it unfolded to the readers is lost on me. Perhaps the reporter could use his twittering skills at a more appropriate event... say, in a foxhole in the middle of an artillery exchange somewhere in Iraq. I picture him now... twittering as each and every bullet and missile fly over his head.

  • 10 Posted by albryanfla on Thu Sep 3, 2009 2:49PM EDT Report Abuse

    As one who preaches at funerals, let me say that seeing someone sending test messages is indeed distracting and makes it hard for some people to focus on what is happening at the funeral. All attention should be on the family and survivors who are grieving.

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