Reader Mail: Is My Husband Spying on Me?

Mon Jan 28, 2008 10:34PM EST

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Anonymous writes: I am soon to be a single mother. My soon to be ex-husband and I owned a computer store. I only have a working knowledge of computers; he was very good at it. When he left the house, he still was able to enter the PC, and I think he installed a keylogger program on the family computer. I can't do anything on my computer at home for this reason, and was wondering if you would know how I can check this, or delete it from my computer.

Keyloggers are a common form of software and hardware that are used to keep track of everything a user does on a PC: Essentially, every button you press is recorded to a file, which the spy can then access at a later time. All your passwords, and everything else you type, is accessible by the perpetrator. Some keylogger programs can even record occasional pictures or video of the screen. Other variants can take a snapshot of you with your webcam. And yes, they can relay those logs over the internet (though this makes them easier to find).

As you can likely tell, keyloggers represent one of the most serious forms of spyware on a PC, but they are hardly unbeatable. First, most spyware detection and antivirus software should be able to uncover their presence and remove them. If you suspect a keylogger is on your PC, update your antivirus software of choice and give it a full run. Also try a sampling of other spyware killers: My current favorites are Ad-Aware and Spyware Doctor. Both are free (the latter if you get it as part of the Google Pack).

Also, and this is critical, check out your computer for any hardware you didn't connect yourself. Many hardware keyloggers look like thumbdrives and connect to either your USB or keyboard port, often between your computer and your keyboard cable. The device does all the recording and the spy simply collects the device at a later time to access your keystrokes. Spyware detection software may not uncover these devices. See the photo above for an example. They can be very small and hard to detect, so check thoroughly.

If you detect nothing in your spyware hunt but still suspect you have a keylogger (or if you find the keylogger software but are unable to remove it), your best bet is to reformat your hard drive and reinstall Windows from scratch. It's a pain, I know, but you're better safe than sorry in a situation like this. Anti-spyware tools are not perfect and can miss infections. I'd rather advise you to spend a weekend reinstalling software on your computer than potentially give up all your secrets to someone who might use them against you.

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  • 1 Posted by alan_r_cam on Thu Sep 3, 2009 2:49PM EDT Report Abuse

    ...or she could buy a laptop, and NEVER let her soon-ro-be-ex husband touch it. If necessary, trade in the old home computer to do it.

  • 2 Posted by kendall_chong on Thu Sep 3, 2009 4:49PM EDT Report Abuse

    I agree with #1, best to start with a clean computer. While I am not familiar with key loggers, could it be possible to have one installed INSIDE the computer, thus casual outside visual searches would not yield anything. If you are worried about passwords and such, there are several password managers (I currently use Roboform) that fill in your username and/or password when you go to a website without having to touch the keyboard. Unfortunately, you have to enter the passwords on the first time, so do it on a computer you trust.

  • 3 Posted by rogueist on Thu Sep 3, 2009 8:49PM EDT Report Abuse

    I agree with that as well - plus use either a MAC or Linux machine because Windows, by default, does it's own keylogging - I found that out when one of my hard drives failed and when it was recovered discovered a TON of hidden files saved my Microsoft that recorded my every keystroke and web page visit from day 1 - I always wondered why Windows machines keep running out of hard drive space slowly over time - and now I know. And everything was timestamped too - pretty scary stuff.

  • 5 Posted by jmwelschplace on Thu Sep 3, 2009 4:37PM EDT Report Abuse

    To last commenter...enjoy reading WHAT? I just wanted to say these are good suggestions, the ones that really work. I never have any less than 2-4 keyloggers and spy programs come up when I boot. So I will be trying the suggestions given here. Thx.

  • 6 Posted by auntkates on Thu Sep 3, 2009 2:59PM EDT Report Abuse

    To o2cmefly: Of course, Spy Sweeper caught things Ad-aware missed! They are two separate programs! Spy-Sweeper is anti-spyware, while Ad-aware is *anti-adware*. While the two types are broadly classified as "spyware," they are two distinct things.

  • 7 Posted by j_lugo_cvg on Thu Sep 3, 2009 4:45PM EDT Report Abuse

    Wipe the hard drive, check for physical devices, and run Knoppix STD, which runs right off the cd. It is a security version of a Live-CD Linux distribution.Use a jump drive to save your settings to that. Simple.

  • 8 Posted by ipinspector on Thu Sep 3, 2009 4:24PM EDT Report Abuse

    rogueist #3, where was the windows keylogging file kept? I would like to delete it-and free up memory.

  • 9 Posted by fcunhajr on Thu Sep 3, 2009 3:59PM EDT Report Abuse

    Too bad keyloogers don't have anything else better to do. I have been accused of doing this because of my knowledge of computers. I could care less! If you can't trust someone, then get out of the relationship. Sounds like there is a new kind of stalker out there - Sick puppies indeed.

  • 10 Posted by ambornb on Thu Sep 3, 2009 2:52PM EDT Report Abuse

    man that was a good article thanks for the update and rogueist that seems very true because a lot of computers I had where always losing memory space!!!!!!!

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